February 20, 2009

one of those conversations...

The below conversation took place as my sister, Emman and I were chatting about dog owners giving their furkids up for adoption.

me: Let's say, if you have 2 babies... toddlers at home. It would be too much. 2 kids and 2 dogs. Where to find the time for them? So, you probably will have to give the dogs up for adoption.
jas: If it's me, I will give the children up for adoption.
me: Keep the dogs, give the kids up?
jas: Ya, because human beings are better equipped to look after themselves.
me: And it's easier to find people who will adopt children, rather than dogs. (turns to em) You? What would you give up?
em: I don't have a dog.
me: Ok, how about, what would you rather have? Kids or pets? A kid or a dog?
em: (silence)
me: Do you want a child or a dog?
em: ... (2 secs of silence) I want a plasma TV.
me: (rolls eyes)

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 12:11

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February 19, 2009

is it 3, or is it 9?

Because of that half year of part-timing, we are not too decided if we should consider us 9 months old or 3 months old.

To be honest, I don't really mind either, but only because I like that I have options in something supposingly as definite as this. Other people always know when their anniversaries are and when to celebrate it. Emman and I are not like other people. We are ambiguous in this.

I once asked him if all the dates about us are so ambiguous, we don't celebrate V-day (well, not really), not our birthdays (not really too), then what are we gonna celebrate? He answered that he will celebrate each day that he gets to meet me (now, that will be almost everyday) and all the times we meet after a day of work (frankly, his day of hard work; my day of not much work).

So, you see... 3 or 9... really doesn't matter.

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 23:36

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movie week

Watched 3 movies in this past week. Two at Cathay@AMKhub and one on DVD.

The Curious Case of Benjamin Button
Almost 3 hours long! But wonderfully as the film is, it didn't feel that long. I remember checking my watch more often when I watched that stupid Zohan rubbish, which was not even 2 hours short, but already too long.
I read the book before I watched the show. Basically, there is no need to compare. No basis to. The movie adapted the book so loosely that it would be unfair, on any grounds, to compare the two. I will say, both are good. And as far as the movie was concerned, it was very good. Deserving Oscars nominations, for sure.
Grace and loneliness. Those are evident themes. Loveliness. That's evident from Cate Blanchett. It's just very 'not fair lor' that this woman can look so darn pretty and elvishly at any age. Bleah!

Valkyrie
Tensed 2 hours. Quick-paced movie that didn't let my brain rest for awhile at all. All the time, retrieving the bits and pieces of what I've learnt about WWII and Hitler's Nazi Germany in secondary school. Thankfully, it was in English. If I had to read English subtitles, I'm sure I would have been more lost in translation than I was lost in history.
Hitler is such an hateful person. But, can never discredit his guts and ambitions.

Big Fish
There's a time when a man needs to fight and there's a time when he needs to accept that his destiny's lost, the ship has sailed and that only a fool will continue. The truth is... I've always been a fool.
I like the movie a lot! It's like adult fantasy of the sexually-unrelated kind. I love stories. And this movie is all about stories. Tall tales, short tales, likeable tales. It's also very romantic, of the old school kind. Sentimental but not mushy. Romantic but not cheesy. Subtly fable-like. Simply, amazing.

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 11:43

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February 18, 2009

a morning of me

So bored after silly quizzes in FB, browsed friend's blogs. Saw this link on Cj's. So, here... more on me.

Sensitive Doer (SD)

Sensitive Doers are gentle, modest and reserved persons. They cope well with everyday life and like their privacy. With their quiet, optimistic nature, they are also good, sought-after listeners and other people feel well in their company. All in all, this type is the most likeable and friendliest of all personality types.

Tolerance and their regard for others distinguish their personality. They are very caring, generous and always willing to help. They are open to and interested in everything that is new or unknown to them. However, if their inner value system or their sense of justice is hurt, Sensitive Doers can suddenly and surprisingly become forceful and assertive.

Sensitive Doers enjoy the comforts life offers to the full. They are very happy in everyday life. Sensitive Doers are often gifted artists or very good craftsmen. Creativity, imagination and an especially keen perception are just a few of their strong points. Sensitive Doers are very presence-oriented; long-term planning and preparations do not appeal to them. They take life as it comes and react flexibly to daily demands. They do not like too much routine and predictability. Their talents come more to the fore when work processes are variable and there are not so many rules. Sensitive Doers like to work alone; if they are part of a team, they do not get involved in competitive or power games and prefer living and working together harmoniously and openly.

Sensitive Doers are completely satisfied with a small, close circle of friends as their need for social contacts is not very marked. Here, too, they avoid conflicts - quarrels and disputes put considerable strain on them. Sensitive Doers are often very fond of animals and are very good with small children. As partner, this type is loyal and reliable and is willing to invest a lot in a relationship. Mutual respect and tolerance are very important to Sensitive Doers. Their love of pleasure makes them a pleasant companion with whom one can experience intensive moments. They like to look after their partner with attentiveness and small gifts and are very sensitive to the partner’s needs - often more than to their own. However, should they meet the wrong person, they run the risk of being taken advantage of. They are then deeply disappointed.»

Sensitive Doers in Love
Due to your quiet nature, you don’t fall in love head over heels - but once you do, it happens intensively and fiercely. You have a pronounced romantic disposition and once you truly catch the bug, you insist on putting your beloved in the center of your universe. Like the Idealists, you are an all or nothing type, in this respect. Despite your love of freedom, you are the most faithful and devoted of all the Doers.

You are capable of deep feelings, and you throw yourself into a relationship with all you’ve got. You care for, spoil, and support your partner wherever you can - sometimes even at the cost of your own needs. You are devoted to doing everything for your beloved to the point that you may not realize for a long time that you are getting the short end of the stick. If you feel that you can do him/her a favor, you gladly deep-six everything that is important to you: friends, place of residence, or job.

As long as you choose a partner who appreciates this trait, and most importantly, who does not take advantage of it, it is just great. It gets extremely dangerous, however, if you end up with an egoist. In dealing with your contemporaries, you are sometimes a little too trusting because you always assume the same high morals and character trends that are yours. In certain ways, that makes you very vulnerable and that applies to love, as well.

Your pronounced sensitivity (also a part of your personality type description) makes you a very attentive, empathetic, and loving partner. You won‘t miss a mood change in your heart of hearts, and have a damned sensitive ear for hidden appeals. You like it that way because excessive love pledges are not your style, and you don’t continuously carry your heart on your sleeve. You prefer to demonstrate how much your partner means to you with deeds, and by reading his/her wish in his/her eyes.

Sensitive Doers at Work
Your type, although belonging to the introverted doers, is also the most amiable and friendly in his dealings with others of all types. This special combination is the reason for your great flexibility. It enables you to work excellently and contently on your own to suit any situation, but also achieve extraordinary popularity and professional satisfaction as a member of a team. Here the precondition is a friendly, collegiate environment characterized by harmony and mutual respect.

You need a working environment without intrigue or political manipulation, and with the least possible deployment of elbows. Cooperation rather than confrontation, should be the order of the day. Colleagues as well as superiors equally appreciate your unassuming, congenial nature and your unbelievable sensitivity plus your attentive and generous ways toward others. In your presence, people simply have to be comfortable; you are not competition oriented, whatsoever.

You are almost limitlessly tolerant and always prepared to accept others as they are. As a consequence, you very rarely have problems getting along with different people. The only exception: when your private value system is hurt or you notice injustice somewhere. In that case, you can react quite forcefully but even in the most heated dispute you always try to argue respectfully and fairly.

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 13:07

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from facebook

Did some silly quizzes on Facebook. So, check out the results:

What kind of a girlfriend are you?

Result: Laid Back
You're so relaxed about relationships, we're not sure if we know when you're even in one. Your attitude about boyfriends is: I'll get to you when I get a chance. You've got other stuff going on in your life that you treat as more important than relationship stuff, and your priorities aren't gonna change any time soon. Your "come and get me...or whatever" attitude has the potential to make guys swoon over you. So keep it up! But don't forget to express interest (we mean, when you actually have an interest). If you act too cool, you might miss your chance to get to know someone really special.

(the above, you gotta check with my bf, seriously...)

What's your mental age?

Result: 43 Years Old
Regardless of how old your body is, up in your head, you're paying mortgages and complaining about back pain. That's great that you're so mature, but remember: it's okay to cut loose and act young every once in a while. Do your wild side a favor and stay up past 10:00 one night this week.

(hahaha... Thanks, mate!)

Which sexy are you?

Result: Cool Sexy
You keep it real smooth, all James Bond-style. The suave, international hotties will love you. You're sophisticated, mature, and you've got fairly expensive tastes. (And your personal hygiene? Outstanding.) Just be careful not to get too carried away. Big, bold romantic gestures are sexy and all, but there's something to be said for sharing a laugh or dancing in the rain. (As long as you're not wearing any suede.)

(I, still, like to think I'm mind-sexy.)

Are you a nerd?

Result: You're Just a Little Nerdy
Don't freak out, okay? All we mean is, you're mostly not a nerd at all. But there's still a tiny part of you that kind of loves Wikipedia and wants to laugh and snort at the same time. Don't even try to hide it! If you're feeling dorky one day, go ahead and let your freak flag fly. After all, did you know that nerds live an average of fourteen years longer than preppy people? (Not really - we just wanted to show you that statistics are cool.)

(Funny I even took this test, innit?)

Are you really in love?

Result: It's Love!
Whether you've been with your sweetheart forever or you just started dating, there's definitely a love vibe going on. You like to kick back and have fun together, but your feelings extend deeper than that. No matter how bad things get, you know you'll be there for each other. And that's the foundation of a strong, mature relationship. Now get out there and gross out all your friends with PDA's and other cutesy stuff.

(wah, heng ah... haha)

Are you blonde?

Result: You're Not Blonde at All
As far as your personality goes, you're a brunette all the way. Which you probably knew already, since you're so darn smart. So why'd you take this quiz, anyway? We sure hope it wasn't just to make fun of the blonder persuasion. If you've got an anti-blonde streak, get over it! Dye your hair, hit some parties and embrace the inner-blonde that's hiding in there.

(shudva just checked in the mirror...)

And finally... haha... When will you get married?

Result: In 7 Years
Nice timing! That'll give you plenty of time to find your soulmate (if you're still looking), fall in love and pick out your catering menu. We recommend the salmon - it's a total crowd-pleaser.

(hahahahaha... do not take that as a hint, Emman...)

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 12:02

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February 14, 2009

Straight-A student

My Sillyyou gave me an elven star pendant today. It's so pretty! I love it! And I love him too.

And all I gave him was a low-budget production February Calender. haha...

The Economics of Relationships... A.
Suitable Responses to Cheesy Writings... A.
Romance... A.

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one of those conversations...

My sister was talking about her RCIA. I just joked that I would join someday. Everyone, including Emman, got excited, thinking I was serious.

em: Really ah, dear? You are going to join RCIA?
me: Huh? Ok lah... when I have time.
jt: It's one year, ten months lah... but in three phases.
me: Oh. Ok lah... when I have time.
jt: You know, Father XXX is very good.
me: Does he support gay rights?
jt: (oblivious to my question) He's very strong...
me: He goes to gym? (to em) Dear, he goes to gym leh... he's strong. No need to talk so much. Just tell me, does he support gay rights? If he does, then I will join anytime.
jt: (still oblivious to my question)
em: (finally, someone to respond to my question) No, Father XXX doesn't support gay rights. He supports young boys.
me: !!!
em & me: Wahahahahahaha...
me: Blasphemy! Blasphemy!

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 20:25

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February 10, 2009

a dog's world

I imagine that in a dog's world, the dogs have all the rights to limit the number of human beings living in a house to two. They probably also have the rights to engage in competition against human babies, to see who can make the most noise (I don't think we should ever underestimate noise generated by a human baby). They must also have the right to disallow human species below 18 years old onto MRT trains and shopping malls. Any screaming toddlers, spoilt human brats on the streets have to be taken to the SPCA - Society for Perpetually Cow-peh Anak to be fed sedative and be put to sleep for... well, the time being.

Unfortunately, this world, as crappy as it still has potential to be, is not a dog's world.

xxx

Just a sideline... For this Valentine's Day, all I want is for all the radio stations to stop running super lame Valentine's programme. It's damn creepy enough to resurrect Saint V from his grave.

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 22:26

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February 05, 2009

kyn's window

Met Kyn for lunch at Soup Spoon before she flies back to GZ this Sunday. She gave me a refreshing insight into my relationship with Emm.

me: My dad could not really accept him at first. But, now, it's ok. He's getting used to seeing Emman in my house.
kyn: What? What's the problem?
me: Aiyah, I don't know lah... it's a strange thing.
kyn: Tell your dad it's Baba leh!
me: ???
kyn: You are starting a Peranakan family! Indonesian-Chinese! Not Baba ah? (DUH)
me: (sudden revelation) So I am opening up a new branch in my family tree, starting a Peranakan family? Like, The Little Nonya?
kyn: Ya!

Thanks for the wonderful insight, FVB!

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 12:11

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LOST in understanding

In my relationship, I have come to learn that one of the crucial prior knowledge I should have in trying to understand Emman is to know LOST. The TV series.

An excerpt of our email conversation:
me: jasmine asked if we wanna join her n xyan tmr for curious case of ben button at amk hub 815
em: OH MY GOD!! (O.O) “…curious case of ben button at amk hub 815…” 815 No… better not joining them. We’ll get LOST!
me: tis falls into the archive of "Lame wit from my boyfriend that even I don't understand"
em: http://www.google.com.sg/search?hl=en&q=815&meta=

Flight#815. One small step to understanding my boyfriend!

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 12:05

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February 02, 2009

Another came n going soon

He's slimmed down, I think. Or it could be the rather good-and-rugged-looking shirt he was wearing.

Junhao is back in Sg for a short visit. Caught up with him for a mere 2 hours over lunch. But it was good. It's been a long time since we last met up before he left to work in London. I guess, I didn't realise how much I miss his talking-on-and-on-and-on-and-on until I struggled to finish my fried rice with chicken chop while paying attention to his talking.

Over the years, I think he has more consideration for a notion of 'future' and has spent some thoughts on it, compared to when we first met. Nevertheless, I don't see this dear friend settling down soon. Constant novelty. And pushing the limits, treading precariously on the boundary. That's more his cuppa tea.

It was really good meeting up. Till the next one then... enjoy, keep safe.

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 23:19

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speaking highly of

Emmanuel Pandu Nugroho aka Emman/Emm in this space.

What I tell my friends when they asked, "tell me more about him":

1. he's very sweet & thoughtful. he's always on the side of the traffic when we cross the road. it confuses me in the beginning cos he keeps changing side. but i got used to it and i think it's really thoughtful.

2. he's actually really quite intelligent. even if he may not look so (usually followed by 'hahaha'). i'm intrigued cos he can speak quite a number of languages, like Dutch, German, a little of Spanish, Jap, aside from English and Bahasa Indon. he's even learning Chinese now, though I think that may be a difficult journey.

3. he's younger than me. 3 years. but he definitely looks older than me, by 3 years too (usually followed by 'hahaha' too). but he's very independent. probably cos he has left his home and lived overseas, in the Netherlands, by himself for quite a number of years when he was studying there. so he takes care of himself and he is capable of taking care of someone too. he is used to doing all the housework himself! that's a huge bonus, don't you think?

4. he reads. like i do. but actually he reads more vastly than i do. he enjoys history. that's uncommon and that's quite charming cos he definitely knows more than i do.

5. he's boring but only to the extent of being dependable. he's quite predictable but that's good cos in a way, i get a sense of security with him. like, you know, he's, well, reliable.

6. he cooks. and that is always, always a good thing for me. i don't mind washing up but i really am not such a big fan of cooking. and i tried his cooking before. i must say he cooks quite damn well.

7. he thinks i'm perfectly gorgeous, intelligent, sweet, lovely, cute and like a goddess. what else can i say? he's judgemental, but has very good judgement.

8. he continues to think he's not deluded by me. (I'm crossing my fingers on this)

xxx

There! I don't need a scholar, an angmoh expat, a well-to-do, a hunk, a pretty face or an Aragorn for a boyfriend. I don't even want.

This is how highly I speak of sillyyou. Romantic. OR nottt?

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 00:17

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came and went

That's Bblics.

Perhaps it's cos of the festive season, where family is always top priority, and given the limited time she has on this return trip (which she spent some time at work too), we didn't actually get to talk a lot.

I guess, there could have been a lot to talk about. A lot to share. A lot of QnA. But, somehow, we just took the option of being listeners in other people's conversations.

It's ok. Like she said, we are tested on distance and time.

Besides, aside from Emm, I really want a little bit of quiet to think about how to best utilise the time this year has for me.

I have to believe what is not meant to be yours, will not be yours. But, the difficulty is in identifying what is meant to be yours and having the guts to make it yours.

According to the prediction for monkeys, everything's supposed to be better and more definite come mid-year. February begins today. I still have some time, it seems...

Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 00:10

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ohoh...

This should have been blogged 4 days ago. But it was not. Now, I've forgotten much of it. Ohoh.

The whole point, I do remember, is that when it comes to striking a balance between the needs and wants of Emm and me, we follow this: I meet his needs so that he can take care of my wants. It's a very fair agreement, in case the economist starts chanting, "but human has unlimited wants..." Because he knows I don't, and he's an economist. Nananibooboo!

Because he also understands (I made him) that behind every successful man, is a woman who knows where to shop.

My boyfriend often thinks I'm amazing because my little brain keeps churning out sensible+logical statements to justify the rubbish that comes out of my petite mouth. I think he's amazing because he thinks I am. We make a good pair, it seems.

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